Local mediation charity Family Mediation Jersey has reported a 20% increase in enquiries from couples and parents seeking support to plan a separation in the run-up to Christmas and the New Year.
The charity says the additional pressures often associated with the festive period can place extra strain on families in Jersey, with arguments and conflict more likely to arise at an already emotionally demanding time. Financial pressures, childcare arrangements, shared living space and heightened expectations can all contribute to tensions within the family home.
Elaine Feltham, Manager at Family Mediation Jersey, said: ”Christmas can add pressure to families that are already struggling. What we’re hearing is that many parents want to reduce conflict at home and make clear, workable arrangements, especially where children are involved. Mediation helps people have difficult conversations safely and constructively, while keeping the focus on practical solutions.”
Family Mediation Jersey has also seen a growing number of enquiries from couples who are still living under the same roof while working out next steps, sometimes described as ‘living together apart’. In these situations, mediation can provide a structured, impartial space to discuss practical arrangements calmly, including day-to-day living, parenting schedules, household finances, property, and how to communicate during the transition.
Supported by The Jersey Community Foundation with funds from dormant bank accounts, Family Mediation Jersey can support each family attending mediation, living in the same household with 2 x joint mediation sessions for free. In addition, individuals with an annual income below £20,000 can engage in joint mediation free of charge.
As part of its work supporting families, Family Mediation Jersey is also sharing some gentle ways to help reduce pressure over the Christmas period:
- It is okay to pause major decisions until after Christmas, where possible
- Keep conversations focused on children and their wellbeing
- Agree on simple boundaries around finances, routines and shared space
- Allow time and space to step away when emotions feel heightened
- Make small, practical agreements about how Christmas days will be handled
Even small steps can help lower tension and create a calmer environment during an already demanding time of year.
Elaine Feltham added: ”Families don’t need to have everything resolved before Christmas. Mediation can help slow things down, reduce conflict, and create a more stable environment, particularly for children.”
